Overthinking 4: Social Anxiety: "Why Did I Say That?!"

Learn to stop overthinking social interactions. Discover CBT strategies to overcome social anxiety and post-event rumination for better mental well-being.
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You know the feeling, you come out of a work meeting or a hangout with friends and start thinking “Why did I say that? I should have responded this way! I am such an idiot! What did he mean when he said…?” Or you think “I was the most awkward person at the party!” Or “I overshared, way too much personal information” or you worry “Did I hurt someone’s feelings!?”
This type of overthinking can be a symptom of social anxiety disorder, it can also just be a symptom of anxiety in general. But when you overanalyze your personal relationships to the point that you are afraid of an emotional connection with another person you’re essentially slipping into a mental rut called Rumination. It’s really common and there’s a lot you can do about it. In this video we’re going to learn 4 ways to stop overthinking every social situation.
1. Learn to notice your cognitive distortions about social situations and social anxiety
2. People aren't nearly as obsessed with you as you are with yourself, social anxiety lies to you
3. Catch yourself when you catastrophize about social situations
4. Social anxiety is fueled by underlying beliefs like:
I must be perfect to be accepted
I must never make anyone else uncomfortable
I must never make a mistake in front of another person
I must never be weird
You can learn to combat social anxiety by learning to challenge your thoughts.

00:00 Intro
01:24 Postevent Rumination
02:47 Selfevaluation Distorted
05:02 Egocentrism Distorted
06:37 Cognitive Distortion
08:50 What Do You Do

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