What Betrayal Trauma Does to the Brain and Body: Tools to Heal

Do you feel like your emotions and your crisis are running you ragged and you're struggling with how to cope? You're not alone. Kristin Snowden, MA, LMFT, CDWF is a licensed therapist and coach that specializes in helping individuals and couples in crisis after infidelity, emotional abuse, and/or uncovering addiction. She educates on what betrayal trauma does to one's body, mind, and spirit; wreaking havoc on your nervous system, intuition, and ability to make healthy coping choices. Kristin uses the Polyvagal Theory (Dr Stephen Porges) and other therapeutic interventions to help you take control of your mind and body after trauma. Trauma removes choice, context, connection, and control from your life. Kristin provides tools to help you regain them. This is for anyone in relationship crisis exploring answers and a path to healing and recovery. Relationship crisis can be spurred from uncovering an unknown addiction, cheating/infidelity, porn use, and other forms of betrayal.
(This is educational, NOT THERAPY)
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Timestamps:
1:28 After betrayal trauma you feel like you lose control of your body and emotions
2:26 Betrayal trauma causes your brain split into divergent realities that the person you've loved the most has harmed you the most and is the least trustworthy.
3:10 Even of the betrayal has passed, the body and emotions will still display post-traumatic symptoms like flashbacks, bouts of rage or hurt, deep fears, hyper vigilance and more
4:33 Trauma recovery is about returning your mind and body back to you so you regain agency
5:30 How the Polyvagal Theory can one help understand their nervous system and develop skills to up and down regulate it
9:00 Signs and symptoms of betrayal trauma
12:15 Betrayal trauma is an isolating experience
13:20 Trauma destroys trust in self and others and causes intimacy issues
14:45 physical symptoms of chronic stress
16:50 Our autonomic nervous system is involuntary, but our prefrontal cortex can override its reflexes
21:00 questions to ask and tools to use when in level of the ventral vagal, sympathetic, and dorsal vagal states
23:30 its important to pay attention to the physical symptoms and "the story you tell yourself" in each state
27:10 Take time to learn your nervous system in each of the three states, learn what tools work to up and down regulate you
31:11 Some tools: social engagement, safe eye contact and touch, group work, body work, breath work, audio stimulation
40:35 The trauma you experienced is not your fault and its not ok, but it then becomes your responsibility to learn the skills to down regulate your body after trauma.

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